I was in the secondary school, my first year, and I was 11 years old. I had gone out with some friends and got home late, tired and feeling sleepy. As soon as I had supper I hit the sheets the fastest I could. In the middle of the night, at about 12:30AM, I opened my tired eyes to discover that I had a snake in my room. It had coiled itself on the cane—sitter. How in the world did it get there I had no idea. Sleep disappeared from my eyes. I jumped off the bed and ran out the fastest way my scared mind and legs could carry me and locked the door outside.
Knock, knock, knock – “Ma, ma, ma!!! Open the door, there’s a snake in my room”. I was scared and breathing heavily. I didn’t want to go back to my room that night. I passed the night in my mother’s room; couldn’t sleep again, I kept thinking and permuting how a snake could have gotten into my room. How? I couldn’t just wait for the break of dawn so I could get some older person to kill this unlawful intruder. But what if it succeeds in hiding somewhere in my room that I become unable to locate it in the morning? That was the scariest possibility.
As soon as it was morning, and the sun was out, I walked gently– tip toed, like a criminal in a night operation, opened my door the gentlest way possible without making a noise. I was now carrying the longest stick I could find that could kill a snake from a considerable distance. As soon as I opened the door, tip toed toward the snake and raised the stick I was carrying to kill it…that was when I saw it – I couldn’t believe my eyes. I hit it a couple of times then picked it up with the edge of the stick and took it to my mother. “Ma, look at the snake that intruded my room last night!” My mother looked at me as if I had spoken in Hindi, as if it was a joke…then almost at the same time, we burst out in laughter. It was my black belt all along, not a snake. My tired eyes had deceived me in the night.
When I got to the room tired and sleepy I had thrown my clothes around the room in many directions and my black belt fell on the chair and coiled itself like a snake. I couldn’t stop laughing. Often I tell the story today, and we always have a good laugh at home.
It Was Just a Mirage!
Life will play that Snake-in-my-room trick on you many times, circumstances will come at you, and challenges will rise against you. You will be scared, no bullshit. Your first natural instinct will scream “Run, baby, run!” Your mind and even certain people will audaciously say to you to give up, but if you toughen up and look closely you’ll discover it is all a mirage; it isn’t real.
Challenges are a fact of life and all they want to do to you is to scare the shit out of you. Fear will make you blow things out of proportions — a man can never think straight at moments of fear.
Yes, problems do arise and things will not go as planned. But success would require that you be fearless; bravodo is a virtue; have staying-power, to persevere and not give up nor give in; to not allow yourself be intimated by internal or external fear and that’s how you will win many of life’s battles. You should win. Be fearless.
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I graduated with a First Class there; 2’1 here; up till now I have no use for my degree(s). The only real education had been the experiences. I had fun; I like fun.
A foundation built on degree(s) is a false foundation; it will soon crumble like a pack of cards, like a house built on sands – the waters of economic instability will wash ’em away, faster than was built. It doesn’t matter what job you have or what position you are at, if a degree made you, that same degree will unmake you because degrees expire. And soon will yours.
ASUU is in the 6th month of its national strike and struggle with the Federal Government of Nigeria. The government is now trying to muzzle them back to class; most students are praying the matter resolved so they could go back and finish their programmes and obtain the much anticipated degree(s).
Six months’ been wasted doing nothing. No body told these students that 6 months was more than enough to start a life, to build a dream; to lay a good foundation for the future. They trust in a degree. Don’t.
They have a simple plan – go to school, get a degree, get a job. And it’s just what most of their parents expect of them. The same parents who followed same path and are now facing unprecedented financial challenges that they have no idea what to do about.
Plan the foundation of your life outside of whatever degree or school you attend(ed). Life does not actually recognise fancy-designer degrees.
Be a person of recreative/renewable value independent of a degree. And make the world a better place. There, will lie your relevance, wealth and happiness. The earlier you recognise that your degree is useless, the better for you.
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“In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.” — Robert Frost
I say to you: when the troubles of life mount against you, as if you now have the whole wild and wide world on your head, it is not the time to get complacent or have doubts about your future.
In fact it becomes the very moment to stay “fired up” on your #momentum; to believe in yourself more than ever.
“Your opinion of yourself becomes your reality. If you have all these doubts, then no one will believe in you and everything will go wrong. If you think the opposite, the opposite will happen. It’s that simple.”
– 50 CENT
Stanley G. Jack
MD, Stanley Wallstreet Limited
Port Harcourt, Nigeria
Stanley is the author of “Who Took My Job?”(@whotookmyjob) – coming soon!
Follow him on Twitter:@wealthyJACK
And then she asks “Why are you so quiet? Don’t you wanna talk?”
Oh, I wanna talk quite alright. I can talk massive . I can jump up and down and play the music so loud (as I do funny and unreasonable dance steps) that my neighbors be praying for PHCN to work their usual to have some peace.
But more and more here I am gulping down Richard Branson’s “BUSINESS STRIPPED BARE – Adventures Of a Global Entrepreneur” or Akio Morita’s “MADE IN JAPAN” or just sitting down alone/quietly while indulging myself in fantasies that carry me far beyond my present status and location. I see me as a leader in business and politics. I visualize in great detail exotic places I would love to dwell and holiday around the world, the cars I would love to drive, my new Embraer Jet, my wife (how fair and pretty), how I would love to raise my kids, the very outside world that I would love to explore and take, soon.
Right before me I see my legacy – then I realize that I am right here, in this small town, in Akwa Ibom state, in the name of NYSC. Then I smile and say to myself “This is a life of freedom and possibility.”
But these are not mere fantasies – they are real; they are destined to happen. I see them clearly, most often now than usual.
Then she asks “Now why you smiling…?” “I have seen the world. I have seen the life. It is impressive. It is inspiring. I keep seeing it.” Just 20 words I said to her in 45 minutes… She lifts both hands in the air as if in frustration and walks away with her friend. She obviously has no idea what I am talking about. But that’s no problem — I know who I am and I understand perfectly what I am talking about and that’s all that matters.
“Your sense of who you are will determine your actions and what you end up getting in life.
Your sense of self-worth comes from you alone – never the opinion of others. With a rising confidence in your abilities, you will take risks that will increase your chances of success.”
When I reach out or in to my spirit, this neighborhood would not confine me. I’ve got the world in my pocket (oh, you may read ‘Blackberry’.) 🙂
What are you feeding your mind? What are you thinking about and what do you see with the eyes of your mind? I thought you saw the world — your world. Was I right?
I understand that Life will deal many options on the table before you — good, bad, ugly and indifferent options. Sometimes you will think you have no choice but to pick from or accept Life’s options dealt you, but, at such moments I remember that I can always create my own options. I always have a choice.
To have a choice is to have freedom. Freedom to choose is power. And am not given up that power for one of Life’s “good options.” I want a perfect option. Pefect is better than good and if it does not exist yet, I wanna create it then drop my closed-fist hard on the table as I say (imagining that Life is sitting across the table) “How about that sucker?”
That’s why I dream wide and wild. My fantasies become realities…when I walk with her, hand in hand across one of the sexiest beaches of Brazil she will understand those “20 words in 45 minutes.” That’s all.
Share your thoughts, you may…at the comments section. Let’s reason.
Stanley, is the managing director of Stanley Wallstreet Limited, Port Harcourt, Nigeria
And author of “Who Took My Job?”(@whotookmyjob) – coming soon!
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